Comments on: 3 Big Problems with THAT Vanity Fair Article on Tinder, and the Truth About Dating Today…

By: Jondoe

Jondoe — Fri, 19 May 2017 12:36:40 +0000

Your first point is especially important. When I first read the Vanity Fair “article” my first response was something like “what the actual fuck? Are the author and the girls who were interviewed such entitled gold diggers that they think only handsome investment bankers and musicians from NYC count as men, or are they just fucking clueless about the life of the average guy?”

Which connects to the second point: if 1000 girls all swipe right only on the same small group of 10 handsome rich men, then yes, it’s going to be a buffet for those guys and the girls will put up with all kind of shit from these guys, naively hoping he will choose her in the end. These girls are their own worst enemies, and they tend to forget 990 guys are getting nothing.

The only thing Tinder changed is that it gives the illusion of more choice, especially for the women, which raises their standards to unrealistic heights, so they end up getting used by a small group of men. In the end everyone becomes more miserable than they were before, except for those few men who get all the women.

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 01 Feb 2017 14:07:24 +0000

In reply to Ashley Daugherty. "Yes, you are right women should not accept it but if that’s all that’s offered then what?" Then "Bye Felipe"! Have standards, take back the power by saying "NEXT", move on and don't settle for less. Men respect standards.

By: Laetitia

Laetitia — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 21:41:20 +0000

Oh god. In a world of real life don drapers, I’d choose nunhood. Does any man seriously look up to that type?

By: Ashley Daugherty

Ashley Daugherty — Mon, 08 Aug 2016 18:39:45 +0000

I’m glad you addressed this but it is still a plague on college campuses. Yes, you are right women should not accept it but if that’s all that’s offered then what? Also and yes this is anecdotal evidence but many of the best relationships I have seen started out as one night stands, friends with benefits etc. Many millenials maybe hoping for that and some actually succeed. Ultimately however you need to consider: ghosting, the slow fade, cuffing season, being on the roster and so on. Yes, those are all real things I’ve seen them in action. At a certain point something better doesn’t come along and you missed an opportunity. I guess that’s just what I see happening though. Again anecdotal I know. I still love you thoughts and points however, even if I don’t always agree with them. ;)

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:29:54 +0000

I am so glad you decided to address this. Other issues with this kind of pathetic journalism is that many readers are going to be mislead and miss all the obvious giveaways that this piece of writing is either misguided or intentionally misleading. I feel sorry for all the women who are going to buy into these ideas.
It’s very disempowering and not helpful at all.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:56:47 +0000

Hi Matt.
I must tell I’ve had too many experiences on Tinder, Happn..etc and what I’ve found is that the majority of guys just want sex, just want the easy thing. Some guys I met up told me that these apps are just for having sex, though I wasn’t looking for that.
I agree with you with the fact that not every guy wants to have a fling, but this is not what these apps have showed me.

By: Cho

Cho — Mon, 21 Dec 2015 06:11:51 +0000

love this!!! Matt you’re the best!

By: Bali Wellness Retreat & Bali Yoga Travel

Bali Wellness Retreat & Bali Yoga Travel — Sun, 27 Sep 2015 11:03:33 +0000

Well said Mathew!!

By: Emily

Emily — Sun, 27 Sep 2015 08:50:43 +0000

Daily dose of Hussey realism.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sun, 27 Sep 2015 02:27:42 +0000

Hi Matthew,

Thank you for sharing your blog on Facebook, I enjoyed reading your thoughts on the Vanity Fair article. I hadn’t seen the article, interesting read. I was actually thinking about going to Stout to watch some of the Rugby World Cup matches, but maybe I better try another sports bar then, if that is the crowd they have there.

I am not one for casual hook ups (though I would like to get laid too) and have never tried Tinder, nor am I planning to. I have recently tried OkCupid after getting frustrated with eHarmony and Match.com. I was somewhat put off by it initially and received a few casual sex inquires (which I ignored), but I do have the impression at the moment that there a few more decent guys on there I can have a conversation with. That said I haven’t met them yet, so who knows what they are actually like.

I find the one challenge with internet dating – apart from finding an interesting single guy obviously – is that you can’t tell if you actually have any chemistry or a connection with someone until you meet him. Which is so much easier when you meet someone in the real world. Or perhaps I should say if you meet someone in the real world – it takes courage to walk up to someone in a bar, cafe, or restaurant and start a conversation. But I am always working on improving my social skills. And I still appreciate when a guy makes the first move and asks me out on a date.